It's better to be liked by people who have the same sensibilities as you do, rather than by everyone else. Even if my own family doesn't like me, it's okay. If you're gonna like me only because I've got something you want or as long as I give you what you want, well you're not worth my time. At least I know what I'm worth to you. On this side of the world, I've learned that real unconditional relationship/friendship (almost like a family) is the one that builds you up, not bring you down. I believe it has something to do with the East Asian culture (China, South Korea, Japan). Mind you, this is very different from some Southeast Asian culture. I can see how the two philosophies: Confucianism and Buddhism (no, Buddhism is not a religion contrary to what everyone believes) influence a society. History plays a big part in how people are influenced too.